“These Things Just Happen to Me!”

How many times have you heard someone say this? It tends to be the chronically unlucky (or consistently lucky) folk that have this mantra nailed down. So how do things – good or bad – chronically “just happen” to people? Let me give you some examples to help you better understand.

There tends to be one person we know who always has a problem. Every time you talk to them, they’ve either lost their cat or crashed their car or come down with the flu. Chances are, all of those things have happened to them in the last two days. Usually they don’t even want your help to solve these problems, they’d really just like to tell you about how much their life sucks. The conversation usually ends with “These things just happen to me!”

Alternatively, there’s usually another person in your life who tends to have fantastic luck on the regular. They might’ve found a $50 lottery ticket on the ground, got all of their groceries on sale, or met James Franco at dinner the other night (“He’s just a regular guy, honestly, it wasn’t a big deal” Yeah, okay Shirley, whatever). When you ask them how they have such good luck, their reply is usually, “These things just happen to me!”

The difference lies in how in flow and in integrity you are. Are you living your life purpose with joy in your heart, or are you going by what other people tell you to do, against all of your intuitive hunches? Are you in an undergrad program you despise and find that your essays get lost in cyberspace, or you’re chronically late for class (if you ever even go, that is)? Chances are, if you were absolutely in love with your program, you’d actually look forward to class. You’ll find your bad luck turns around when you start to follow your passion.

People that consistently have good luck are probably doing something they love. It might not be where they work, but it could be a hobby they do on the weekends. Consider that we spend the majority of our lives working, and if it’s not something we’re passionate about, creating passion in your life will likely be more challenging. Doing things (work related or otherwise) that fuel your soul are crucial to your overall well-being. It’s not so much about results as it is satiating your soul. Do something creative, do something fun.

If you find you are having bad luck, acknowledge it and take responsibility for it. At the end of the day, we are truly responsible for everything that happens to us. Vibrate at a low level, and low-energy events will happen to you. Once you acknowledge that only YOU have the power to change your life, you can start to take full control of the events that occur.

James Franco loves animals too.

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7 Responses

  1. Great Post! So much of what we think and say is habitual, and a negative outlook can be hard to break but definitely possible. You always have the choice to change your mind : )

  2. The most important thing in life is that you take responsibilty for your actions. Everyone has good luck and bad luck but the chances of any kind of accident are greatly increased when you are very upset, instead of being calm and relaxed.

    Also if you treat others badly then you cannot expect them to treat you differently. My problem now is someone left rollerblades in new condition outside of my door and I am trying to find out who did this. I do not know many people around here since I am new to this area and it is a rural area but I am very nice to my neighbors. Actually the idea of karma is universal like with Jesus saying “As you sow, so shall you reap.”

    • Very true! Thanks for commenting Chuck. I wouldn’t see new rollerblades as a problem – it’s a possibility and a blessing, really :) You’ve been given the opportunity to either increase your karma by returning something to its rightful owner, or reap the benefits of your good karma by enjoying the blades. Have fun!

  3. Great post! I can totally relate. I was a music major in college and was not happy and found it very hard to go to class. Now that I am well past that and making my own path in life doors and options seem to be opening more.

  4. Pingback: Are You a Victim of the Victim Syndrome? | Abigail Christens

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